“He’s Just Not That Into You” is a great movie. I haven’t read the book yet, but I can’t wait to. I could relate to most of the situations. Although it was usually from the guy’s perspective.
One thing the movie sort of touched on, although more from a calling situation, were the rules of texting.
I think texting is a great tool when it comes to starting new relationships. It allows you to talk without the awkward silences of a phone call. There is defintely a point when phone contact needs to be had but in the beginning, texting is a great way to get to know each other.
But there’s an unwritten rule when it comes to texting that many guys – at least in my experience – don’t seem to get: If she doesn’t text you back after you’ve texted her several times then she is just not that into you.
No, she didn’t lose your number. She just doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. It’s a hard realization, but one that needs to be had before you really make a fool of yourself.
Depending on the length of the relationship, she may or may not feel she owes you an explanation. And well, you’ll just have to deal with it and move on because if you weren’t talking on the phone then it wasn’t that serious anyway.
So, if she’s not texting you back she just doesn’t want to talk to you anymore, and under no circumstances should you:
- Keep texting.
- Facebook her asking her why she stopped texting – if she wanted to give you a reason she would have given you one.
- Come up to her while at a bar and ask her why she stopped texting.
- Text her saying you “really just want to be friends.”
- Text her again with the obvious “well, i guess you’re not interested in me anymore.” after months of not hearing from her.