why i like the single life

Yes ladies, I said I liked it!

This is a relatively new realization. I never used to like being single. I used to be the girl who was always down on myself saying “why don’t I have someone? I’m fun, and I deserve someone too!”

At lunch today, my friend Gayl and I were discussing our love lives (or lack thereof), and I realized that I really like being single. I don’t just tolerate it, I actually enjoy it.

Here are a few reasons to why (just in case you think I’m nuts):

1. I have awesome friends and family. Relationships take time, a LOT of time. Time away from my amazing friends and family is something that I’m just not willing to give up at the moment.
   

   my friends and i celebrating Obama's victory

2. I love my freedom. I like being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want. I don’t have to call someone to tell them what I’m doing (until I move back in with mom…ughh). I get to meet and flirt with anyone I want without feeling guilty. It’s freaking awesome.
3. I love not worrying. Not worrying about what he’s up to or why he’s not calling me back. I used to make myself so upset worrying about him that I forgot to think about me.
4. I’m young! I’m only 22 and have so many things I want to do still and don’t want to be held back because of a boyfriend.
5. I haven’t found the right person yet. This isn’t really a reason why I like being single, but it’s why I’ve chosen stay that way. If I really wanted to have a relationship, I could have one (despite my dripping sarcasm and the fact that I jiggle pretty much everywhere). I would rather find someone I’m excited about rather than settle for someone I’m really just not into.

Just to clarify, I don’t hate relationships or men. I want to find the right person. I want to get married one day and live happily ever after, but I’m not going to settle for the wrong person just because I don’t want to be alone.

I realize relationships are about compromise, and one day I know I’ll find the right person, who I’ll be willing to compromise for. But while I’m waiting for him to show up, I’m enjoying my life and being single.

if she’s not texting you back…

“He’s Just Not That Into You” is a great movie. I haven’t read the book yet, but I can’t wait to. I could relate to most of the situations. Although it was usually from the guy’s perspective.

One thing the movie sort of touched on, although more from a calling situation, were the rules of texting.

I think texting is a great tool when it comes to starting new relationships. It allows you to talk without the awkward silences of a phone call. There is defintely a point when phone contact needs to be had but in the beginning, texting is a great way to get to know each other.

But there’s an unwritten rule when it comes to texting that many guys – at least in my experience – don’t seem to get: If she doesn’t text you back after you’ve texted her several times then  she is just not that into you.

No, she didn’t lose your number. She just doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. It’s a hard realization, but one that needs to be had before you really make a fool of yourself.

Depending on the length of the relationship, she may or may not feel she owes you an explanation. And well, you’ll just have to deal with it and move on because if you weren’t talking on the phone then it wasn’t that serious anyway.

So, if she’s not texting you back she just doesn’t want to talk to you anymore, and under no circumstances should you:

• Keep texting.
• Facebook her asking her why she stopped texting – if she wanted to give you a reason she would have given you one.
• Come up to her while at a bar and ask her why she stopped texting.
• Text her saying you “really just want to be friends.”
• Text her again with the obvious “well, i guess you’re not interested in me anymore.” after months of not hearing from her.