…you will get a boyfriend (or girlfriend)!
Congrats, being happy with yourself and your life will get you a significant other. It’s a proven fact, well proven in the fact that currently being unhappy in your life hasn’t rewarded you with that significant other that you so desperately want.
I’ve recently run across another single, 20-something’s blog, and she discussed the same phenomena. You can’t find someone to fall in love with until you fall in love with yourself. Because why would someone love you if you can’t even love yourself?
Being with someone simply because you don’t want to be alone will lead to being with someone who probably doesn’t truly love and respect you because you don’t truly love and respect yourself (this is the rule, there may be exceptions, but remember those are rare and few and far between).
Not to mention, are you truly happy?
To me, happiness is about finding yourself and what you want out of life. It’s different for everyone.
So my unsolicited advice is: Find what makes you happy, and love will come when it knows you’re ready for it.
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07/12/2009 at 12:31 pm
Dating is my Hobby
I definitely agree. part of the fun of dating is the ability to say “no, i dont like you and i dont need your attention to validate my exisitence.” once you put yourself first, you can find happiness
07/14/2009 at 9:03 pm
JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You.
SO TRUE! I AGREE! and then some!
I think what it is is when you’re genuinely happy, you just radiate a welcoming .. aura for lack of better term. You smile more. You’re more inviting. Even without saying so, your attitude will attract people to you. Who doesn’t want to be around someone who is full of live and ready to love? The little things in our body language speak volumes.
07/14/2009 at 9:07 pm
katelyn luysterborg
i totally agree. you can tell when someone is truly happy with themselves – you can’t fake that.
07/15/2009 at 4:41 pm
Angel
I completely agree. If one does not completely love themselves, they’ll never really someone else. Nice blog!
07/20/2009 at 5:45 pm
Brandi Neloms
Great advice my fair Kate-
I must agree. Yes I’m engaged to a wonderful guy and getting married June 12, 2010, but I know a little something about the single life. I read a book titled “The Lady, The Lover and Her Lord” that discusses this exact topic. Ultimately, if you enter a relationship under the pretense of needing love, the relationship will end (miserably). The relationship will end because your mate will never be able to quench your thirst for love because it is a bottomless hole until you choose to plug it with acceptance and love of self. Question: is it fair to put that type of weight and pressure on another? I think not! Love you ladies, and that love will leave you fulfilled when lonely and overflowing when coupled up.
Thanks Katelyn