why i like the single life « A Darling View

Yes ladies, I said I liked it!

This is a relatively new realization. I never used to like being single. I used to be the girl who was always down on myself saying “why don’t I have someone? I’m fun, and I deserve someone too!”

At lunch today, my friend Gayl and I were discussing our love lives (or lack thereof), and I realized that I really like being single. I don’t just tolerate it, I actually enjoy it.

Here are a few reasons to why (just in case you think I’m nuts):

I have awesome friends and family. Relationships take time, a LOT of time. Time away from my amazing friends and family is something that I’m just not willing to give up at the moment.
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I love my freedom. I like being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want. I don’t have to call someone to tell them what I’m doing (until I move back in with mom…ughh). I get to meet and flirt with anyone I want without feeling guilty. It’s freaking awesome.
I love not worrying. Not worrying about what he’s up to or why he’s not calling me back. I used to make myself so upset worrying about him that I forgot to think about me.
I’m young! I’m only 22 and have so many things I want to do still and don’t want to be held back because of a boyfriend.
I haven’t found the right person yet. This isn’t really a reason why I like being single, but it’s why I’ve chosen stay that way. If I really wanted to have a relationship, I could have one (despite my dripping sarcasm and the fact that I jiggle pretty much everywhere). I would rather find someone I’m excited about rather than settle for someone I’m really just not into.

Just to clarify, I don’t hate relationships or men. I want to find the right person. I want to get married one day and live happily ever after, but I’m not going to settle for the wrong person just because I don’t want to be alone.

I realize relationships are about compromise, and one day I know I’ll find the right person, who I’ll be willing to compromise for. But while I’m waiting for him to show up, I’m enjoying my life and being single.

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07/09/2009 at 8:16 pm

narm

You know that scene in Billy Madison where he grabs the fat kid’s face and says, “STAY…STAY AS LONG AS YOU CAN…”

Kidding – I love being in a relationship but there are plenty of days that I don’t feel like leaving my couch or get a flirty look at the bar and think back to the days before I was whipped.

07/09/2009 at 8:23 pm

katelyn luysterborg

Haha! You know, there are some days when I would love to be in a relationship. Especially when I go to the zoo. Why the zoo? I have no idea, and it’s kinda weird. But there’s nothing like walking around the zoo and seeing couples all around you to make you want to be with someone. I think I’ll be avoiding the zoo until I get BF.

07/09/2009 at 8:30 pm

Audrey